Win Back Your Lost Love

If you’ve broken up with your boyfriend recently, you’re probably either trying to scheme how to get over him, or how to win back lost love.  Neither is especially effortless, but most people collapse to one or the other, with only an incredibly few able to move on rapidly without obsessing or wishing things could be different.  You ought to really think hard about the connection and your ex boyfriend had before you do something. Think about how things were and how they will be at the moment.  Try to be as impartial as you can.  You might make a decision that the break-up really wasn’t such a bad idea in retrospect. 

If you make your mind up to try to win back lost love, the opening step is to ask for forgiveness.  You might think you’ve done this.  You might have said you were remorseful quite a few times.  But if your ex boyfriend thought you were apologizing just to stop the break-up, he or she might not think the confession was genuine. 

If you were the one who did something that you need to say sorry for, ask for forgiveness again.  Now they might think the confession is genuine, because nothing hinges on it. If the relationship has ended, you won’t be saying it only to save it but they will think that you really mean it.  (And hopefully, you do.)

If your ex boyfriend was the one who did wrong, try forgiving him instead of digging for an apology.  You may never forget, particularly if your break-up was because of devious behavior, but you must discover to forgive.  Forgiving is much more difficult for some of us than just saying, “I forgive you,” though, so you might want to study a book or two on mercy and how to really mean it.  If you want to win back lost love, this step will help you do it.  And it can help avert troubles in the future, too. 

If you do achieve something and you win back lost love, 3 or 6 or 9 months into the only just patched relationship, older issues might come up.  If you haven’t forgiven the individual for whatever was done to break up the relationship, old problems may come back to the surface.

But if you can truly excuse the person, then there won’t be any need to repeat the past.  While you’re working on pardoning him for whatsoever happened to cause the break up, forgive him for the break up itself and you’ll save yourself from lots of heartache down the road.

Also, to win back lost love, demonstrate to the person the "you" they fell in love with, not the “you” that has been deserted.  They were with you because you have confident qualities—compassion, consideration—not because you’re irritated, envious or hurt.  While you might not be able to hide the harm, focus on being the finest "you" you can possibly be and you may win back lost love by reminding them why they loved you originally.